Lola

Meet Lola… a lovely young seagull who was part of our family for a few days. During a walk we found her along the seaside, struggling with the waves, totally exhausted. We picked her up and did some checks to find out what was wrong. Her wings seemed fine, but she was out of balance and very weak. So we gave her time and space to recover. We build her a nest, the girls cuddled her a lot, she eats dog food, pooped a lot (also on your lap) and wiggles around during little walks. This morgen she decided it was time to go and left in silence. We hope she is fine and has the best life for a seagull possible. It was a joy to have her around!

 

Thank you!

The Tipifamily thanks you!!!
It is lovely to experience what our request for help in the form of money brings. To ourselves. To others.
It was overwhelming to experience unconditional support from many of you. Just to receive. Because the need was felt. It resonated. Gratitude and love flow into our hearts. We wish everyone this experience.
Living in a world of duality means that there were also reactions with a critical note. We feel gratitude for this too. It gave us the opportunity to see what lives in us. We have felt what it did to us. Which fears and beliefs were touched that determine our lives, views and feelings. Interesting matter.
The only thing we choose to do is look at ourselves when an (emotional) reaction, judgment or whatever is felt about anything. It says everything and only about ourselves. Everyone’s opinion arises from a collection of experiences, beliefs and judgments that we carry within us. That forms our perception on a deep layer and determines how we view the world. And that is really different for everyone. There is no 1 truth. There is no right or wrong. Everything IS simply.
So although we felt a preference for certain responses 😉 we are grateful for what came.
Thanks again everyone … thanks thanks thanks for your contributions in whatever form it was 🙏🏻❤️

Financial worries

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Financial worries are the last thing we wanted to have, but unfortunately, they have been our company since the start of our journey.
 
We put an amount of money aside to have enough to travel for the first period. It would give us the space we need to get used to our new life and be able to make the right choices in order to earn money on the way. 
 
Only the last few weeks in the Netherlands went differently than expected and we had high unforeseen costs on our bus and trailer. Things that could not be postponed, because of safety first. And BAMMM…. our money was blown away! Despite concerns about money, we felt that we just had to leave. It was really time to go. We still had some savings that we had set aside for our girls and we expected some payments in the future that gave us sufficient certainty to be able to go. It was a bit scary, but also beautiful to look at… the fear of shortage.
 
This summer we stayed in a beautiful place in northern Spain for a long time. We decided to stay there for a while to make a deep Inner journey. And what a journey it became! We’ve got one insight after another. Even more aware of how being human works. That our perception on a deeper layer says everything about us and our reality, but nothing about reality. That we constantly live in a range of emotions, positive and negative, which also says nothing about reality, but we let ourselves guided by it. We actually like to live in fantasies and all kinds of ideas, but it has little to do with the realness in the NOW. What are we kidding ourselves? We put a lot of effort to live as much as possible in a feel of (false) safety and to keep our fears calm. It takes courage to look at all this. You unconsciously try to maintain so many holy houses.
 
All those insights brought us more peace and more sight of what is really there. We were also strengthened in our feeling that by following our hearts, we can create an inner flow where it’s possible to earn money with what we really like. We decided to make no longer choices based on fear. But follow our inner stream. To do what makes us happy. Music and dancing make us happy. And beautiful connections with ourselves and other people. We have practiced a lot to be able to play beautiful sets of Ecstatic Dance and feel the inspiration to organize great conscious plus parties. Creating a place where people can show who they really are, without masks, and really connect with each other. While having fun, playing and discovering (yourself) is central. A truly in-depth party!
 
And through all these insights, following our inner stream and choices made from our hearts, we felt a lot of financial confidence. That would also flow. With this feeling and the knowledge that money would still come in from a sold company car from Timo, we were able to make it until we had set up our events.
 
Delighted and full of sense, we left for Portugal. Time for the next step! Next level!
 
As we had already shared, our adventure in Portugal went differently than expected. We thought we had a place to be, surrounded by nice people, meanwhile contributing to the site and organizing our things. To earn money. However, it turned out not to be our place and we went on the way again. Open to what is right for us. We are doing this now for a few weeks. And the vastness of everything, the unlimited possibilities, having all the freedom that there is, nothing fixed or planned and especially not living in a fantasy or an idea is “more challenging” than thought. Following our inner stream instead of mental plans we are used to, gives uncertainty. We no longer have false security to lean on. We are fully responsible for our future and everything is possible. This is what we longed for. Now we have created it, what do we do next? How do we give direction? It appears to be not as easy as you might think in reality. The mind is very present and loud. It touches everything in ourselves. What is beautiful. And sometimes not 🙂 Our inner journey continues. In the meantime, we haven’t found a place to stay yet. So we cant create an income yet. But we live very consciously and economically.
 
Unfortunately, financial pressure has now become too great. Our bus has unexpected substantial costs again. On top of it, we received yesterday some fines due to police control for the amount of 1.320 euros. There is no money left anymore. The payments that we would receive are not received yet and we have had to decide to set up a collection agency on it. In the meantime, we have been able to borrow some money from our parents, but that is simply not enough.
 
Our girls showed us something a few days ago. Timo and I were meditating on the beach and when we came back there were two smiling girls waiting for us. She handed over us almost 20 euros. They had collected. Our girls are aware of our money worries. Trips that cost money and that they would like to make are not possible. We spend what we have on essential things: food, drink and fuel. They don’t like it but accept it as it is. So they had raised money. They were so free to translate the following into three languages on google translate and to  show it to passing tourists:
Hello, we are the Tipifamily and we need money. Do you have anything left for us?
And yes, people have. The girls received nice and beautiful responses. And we’re very proud of their financial contribution to our family.
 
They teach us a big lesson. Dare to ask and receive. They just do it. With us, there is a lot to feel. For example, fear, shame and feelings of inferiority. In fact, much more. Beliefs that are deep. The feeling of falling short. Fear what others would not think of us if they found out. Afraid of rejection and so on. But is that really true ?!
 
We are as always very open in sharing about our experiences and our inner world. We don’t want to create a more beautiful picture of what is going on. We want to show what really is. And this is how it is now. An urgent shortage of finances. And no matter how scared we are to ask, we still reach out to you.
 
Dear people … would you like to help us? With a financial contribution?
 
Let us first say that we are grateful and happy with every contribution we receive. No words for what that means to us. But we also felt what would be especially great for us. Really helping. We would be most helped if a group of people donated a set (to be determined) amount to us monthly for a certain period. For example 12 x 10 euros per month. Or 6 x 25 euros. Whether that is right for you and can be missed.
 
If we are supported in this way, we will be able to go through the coming months and it will be a great relieve of the financial pressure that we are currently feeling. In the meantime, we will do everything we can to generate income for ourselves in the long term. Your gift gives us the space we need and an important lesson in daring to ask and receive.
 
For our Dutch friends: onetime donations can be made through this tikkie:
Do you want to support us monthly? Make an automatic bank transfer. These are our bank details:
NL86RABO0109573781
T.n.v. T. van Wijgerden
BIC code: RABONL2U
 
Or do it using the attached form to be found under the donation button:
 

We share and ask this in all our vulnerability. We cannot express how grateful we are for your support. Dear people… great that you are there. Thanks, thanks, thanks !!! 

 

Police control

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OMG 😱
The police had a special action today by controlling large vehicles. And we had to stop too. Due to different regulations here it is in Portugal forbidden to drive with our large tipipoles on our roof. We also leaked cooling liquid and our blue flashing lights on top of our truck wasn’t covered. So… in the end we’ve got 4 fines!!! With a total amount of € 1.340,-
We are still in shock 😮😢

Interview for Kiind Magazine

A few months ago Kiind Magazine approached me for a deepening interview about the crisis Timo and I went trough in our relationship two years ago. It became a inspiraring and beautiful conversation with interviewer Nelleke Bos. She was able to form the words into an in-depth  and honest article. Exactly as I hoped it would be. In Dutch only.  I hope you like it!

With love 💚 Tamara
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True beauty

I love to wander around in small streets of little villages and old neighborhoods of a city. There are so much surprises to find. From the beauty and richness of old buildings to the neglection of some of them. I can see real art in dilapidation. Peeling and faded paint, old walls, little details, some graffiti or even rubbish. Walk around without judgment and with real openness… then you can enjoy from what really is. Beauty is everywhere ❤️

Portugal

So, what happened since we are in Portugal?! I can tell: a lot!
Portugal was a direction to go to since we are traveling. We were invited to a lovely place to stay for a longer period. We wanted to put up the tipi there and be part of a community for a while, organize some events: ecstatic dance for example and also a festival and a retreat. The temple of the (h)earth in Aljezur looked like the perfect place for us. But when we arrived and stayed there for a few days the owner came to tell us that for himself he felt a no for us staying there any longer. We had to leave. It came as a shock for us. After traveling for months we were looking forward grounding again on one spot for a while. And now we have to leave again, leave our plans behind and have no idea where to go to.
After the shock we were able to see what the reality was in the now. What we realized was that being there was build up of fantasies and ideas. It gave direction and a feeling of safety during our preparations of leaving everything behind in the Netherlands. But we don’t need that false feeling of safety anymore. We feel safe in ourselves. We learned a lot on the road. We made a deep inner journey and are totally different people then we were before.
So we are on the road again. Grateful for the lessons we learned and the realizations we had. We are traveling further with an openness for what the future will bring us.
In the meantime we enjoyed the visit of my father in Portugal. It was really nice to be together for a while. Last week our girls flied back with him to Holland for a visit to their grandma and friends. This weekend I will fly to NL as well to pick them up. Taking the chance of seeing and hugging some friends as well. I’m looking forward to it 🙏🏻😍
But now I am enjoying my time together with Timo. 10 days without the girls. Quality-time I can tell ❤️
The future is open. Every moment we are creating our new now. And we are doing that with total openness. To be continued….

Lisboa

We went yesterday to Lisboa for a very nice ecstatic dance. We hadn’t danced for months and we really missed it. After two hours of barefoot dancing 💃🏼🕺🏻❤️ and a deep journey into ourselves, we’ve got naturally high. Experienced total bliss 🙏🏻 What a pleasure and joy!!
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The best part of living in a van is that you can sleep everywhere, also in the middle of the city like Lisboa! So today, we couldn’t resist exploring more of Lisboa. What a nice place to be… we had the best time! @Alfama, Lisboa, Portugal

 

Interview

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A few months ago Kiind magazine approached me for a deepening interview about the crisis Timo and I went trough in our relationship two years ago. It became a inspiraring and beautiful conversation. The redaction was very enthusiastic and wanted an interview with Timo also, for his point of view. You can read his version (Dutch) in this online article. For mine, you will have to go to the shop. It’s on paper only.

You can read Timo’s interview here.