Before we left the Netherlands we had many ideas about how our life would be when we started travelling. As often when you imagine something in your head, the reality is different. One of these ideas was about homeschooling our children. We thought we would do it 4 days a week, a few hours a day. And even though it would be challenging from time to time, it was working for us as a family.
When we started homeschooling it was a learning process for us as parents. We haven’t done it before, so we had to find our way in this. We liked the one-on-one contact with the girls. Timo was educating Lente and I was with Linde. And both found our own way of teaching. Combining education with fun, creativity and playfulness.
Until our youngest, Linde, didn’t want anymore…
Already at school in the Netherlands, she experienced difficulties with learning to read. And somehow she managed not to stand out too much from her classmates, but working one-on-one with me was something else. Confronting. Difficult. And she experienced a lot of shame. And while I gave her the best support, she withdrew. One day she said she didn’t want to anymore. It was a big NO. And when Linde says no, it’s really NO. I was no longer able to persuade her to continue anyway. She just didn’t participate anymore.
And that did a lot to us as parents. Because not schooling your child is a no go, right? It is the basis for everything. OMG, how should that be later? If she wants to study? Or looking for work? What are people gonna think about her? And what does this say about us as parents? Pfffff … I can tell you we ran into a lot of fears. But all those fears where projected into the future. They were not in the now. When we looked at those fears and saw that they were in our heads, not in the reality, we decided to see what it would be like to let go of school for a while. See how it would be in the here and now.
So we stopped homeschooling. At first only with Linde, but Lente also wanted to quit when she saw the freedom of her younger sister. And freedom they experienced. They played, discovered and developed interests from within.
Some examples. During the lock-down of Corona, there was an Italian girl from their age close-by. And the only way they could speak to each other was in English. They played every day with each-other and in only a few weeks time they learned to speak English. At first in a simple way, but because they discovered that they could actually talk to everyone now, their vocabulary grew bigger and bigger. Their shyness towards others is completely gone. They interact freely with everyone. Young, old. They don’t care. They socialize with everyone!
And because they meet so many different people, all kinds of interactions grew playfully. They started their own shop in second-hand clothing and accessories. Learning how tho exchange and trade. They do all kinds of chores for everyone. Learn from others how a 3d printer works, all kinds of crafts such as sewing and macrame. They have such a big interest!
But the most amazing thing is that Linde learned herself to read. Her grandfather sent a few comic books about horses. And her desire to understand what was in the pictures made her spend a lot of time on that. For hours she sat spelling the letters until she could read the words one after the other. She learned to read without pressure and at her own pace because she was motivated from the inside. Can you imagine how happy we were when she said: I really love to read!
And what we learned as parents is that we can trust ourselves and the girls. Life is always a learning curve. It’s our natural intention to learn and grow. We learned that it is okay to choose differently than is common. At the moment they are at the school of life. And they learn in real life in a playful manner what they normally learn at school. But not only that. They learn more. They learn stuff and skills they cannot learn out of books. We see our girls become more open and independent. Not pushed into a form about how it should be normally at school. They learn to make the movement from the inside instead of being told what to do.
By this, I do not mean that normal school is not good. I just want to show that a normal school is not the only way. There appear to be many ways. You only have to see them and don’t be afraid to choose differently. Always looking at what works for you and your child. As soon as something doesn’t work, you shouldn’t try harder to match the normal. No, it is an invitation to look at what really works. And we are grateful for this lesson. We really like the school of life and looking forward to what life brings us.
Where our girls are, there are dogs. They always manage to find each other. They all get new names. For example: Starlight Shimmer, Brownie, Mini and Prince.
Prince was a timid and anxious dog with a beautiful princely attitude. He kept coming back and getting closer. He quickly trusted the girls. With them it turned out to be a real cuddly dog, but with us as adults it was something different. We couldn’t get near him at first and he sprinted far away with any unexpected movement or sound. Anxious and trembling. Probably through abuse. Still, he couldn’t resist. He stayed daily with us and regularly overnight. One day when we went shopping and we drove off with our bus, he sprinted after us, running for his life. He insisted on staying with us. He made his choice. And we could only surrender. And so he has become our new family member. After a few weeks in our lives, we saw him transform from a fearful dog to a very happy and free one! Although he loves our girls still the most, he started to trust us also. We are very happy with our Prince ❤️
This little Miss Sunshine turned 10 today! And we are so proud of her. We see her shine like never before. She is pure, wild and free. Pure joy.
Congratulations sweetheart 💗 we love you!
Every day Timo and I do some yoga and dance-meditations to start the day with. We feel alive and aligned through it. When we do our practices our dog Lagun is always around us. I think he loves the energie. He knows he shouldn’t be on the mat, but sometimes he can’t resist it. It doesn’t matter what we say or do, he come to cuddle and lick us. LOL!
Our first event! Ecstatic dance gathering Algarve.
We lived up to this moment for so long! And finally we got there. The first of many events and retreats we are going to organize.
We finally got to experience how it is when people dance to our music. What a bliss!
We put together music that we ourselves would like to dance to, and it is so rewarding to see other people enjoying our music as well.
We’re so looking forward to the next!
Want to hear the music that we played?
There is a lot of catching up to do. The last time we shared something about ourselves it was still 2019. We were looking for a place in Portugal to stay for a longer period. We’ve got an extremely high fine. Had some money problems. And we’re also enjoying our time together, living free and in the middle of nature. So, what is the status at the moment?!
We are happy to share that we found a place to stay for a longer period! Mid-December we arrived at Green Eyeland, a beautiful place in nature near Faro. A nice couple (Nico and Sara) runs this place in summer with renting private tipis through Airbnb (check this place https://www.airbnb.be/rooms/36179466…). Out of the summer season, they would love to have some events at their place. Lucky for us, it is exactly what we are planning to do. So… a win-win situation for us all.
After we’ve got the fine, we did some extra research and we decided to cut the poles of the tipi, so there will be no transport problems any more due to rules and regulations. We designed a customized construction to keep the stability and strength of the poles. We found a good welder and together we were able to make perfect fit conical tubes. It was a bit scary to cut the poles in two, but we are so happy with the result. There are no problems to be aspected there 🙂
Then it was time to put up the tipi. Only the ground was not really fit for it. It had to be flattened out, and luckily we had some help with that. Finally, we’ve got to start with the structure of the tipi. Because we are planned to do some events in it, we made it extra beautiful with fairy lighting. The next day we put the canvas over the structure. Everything went well and it is so nice the tipi is up again. It is such a nice place to be.
We do not have plans of living in it right now. It will be a place for workshops and dances. This Sunday we have our first: Ecstatic dance gathering Algarve https://www.facebook.com/events/2397056403940741/. A little bit more than Ecstatic dance alone. It will be a day to be open to ourself and others. Meeting likeminded people and connect on a deeper level. We are so looking forward to it!
There are a lot of new events coming up. Maybe you would love to come and join us?! We keep you posted!
It’s our oldest daughter’s birthday today. 11 she has become … 11 !! It only seems so recently that she was in my arms as a little sweet baby. And when I look at her now, I don’t see a little girl anymore. And not yet a young woman. She is a beautiful creature that grows into her being, her independence. She becomes more aware of herself. Therefore she is not always shown herself completely. She protects herself. And darling, thats totally fine. Discover yourself in your own way. I can see in you a flower, sometimes a bit closed, sometimes open, but always beautifull. Blossoming. Radiant. Pure beauty. Mmmmm … sweet birthday girl. I am so happy with you. Enjoy this day. I’ll do the same ❤️
Well… I can tell that our kids are doing really fine 💚 They enjoy the freedom they experience. Becoming wild spirits. They walk most days barefoot. Playing. Kuddling with the dogs. Be very creative of making something out of nothing. Like this playhouse and mini kitchen garden they made. They had an idea. And out of nothing they manage to find and attract everything they need. I love to watch that. To see their shiny faces. The strong personalities they become. Sometimes it isn’t that easy or nice. They have a very very strong will and opinion. And they love to express that to us mostly in a unpleasant way 😆 but overall I can see that our girls are doing very well 🙏🏻❤️
Lovely people… that 2020 may be exactly as it is. With all the experiences there are. And that we may see its perfection in every moment 😘❤️